Because, let’s face it, the odds are not in our favor, ladies.
As we get older the man-to-woman ratio moves more and more lopsided.
If you’re a woman, you’re also now at your sexual peak. Learn to give each new date a fair shot, not holding them accountable for the sins of those who’ve gone before. Date someone who isn’t your type, try an activity outside of your comfort zone, and challenge yourself to address the stuck-in-your-ways habits that could keep others at arm’s length. Either you have them, want them, can’t have them, or don’t want them: all of these scenarios can result in awkward conversations. If you have kids, they need to be a huge consideration in your dating life.
If you don’t yet have kids, evaluate whether or not the desire to eventually procreate is a deal-breaker.
I guarantee you’ll see the immediate payoff in the quality of men you attract. Here are some statements I see every day in women’s profiles: “I’ve waited so long for the right relationship and I hope it’s finally my time.” “I’m ready to be his everything.” “I’m looking for a relationship where we are totally devoted to each other.” While some of this may be true for you, it’s not something to put in a profile.
The man reads this as you having incredibly high expectations and reliance on your relationship for your happiness. If you wouldn’t say it on your first date, don’t write it in your profile. Women in their 40s, 50s and beyond are particularly guilty of this.
Dating in your 30s might not sound like as much fun as it did in your 20s, but it certainly doesn’t have to be a chore.
Having survived the immature sagas of youth, you’re ready to hit your stride, relationship-wise.
(You probably don’t attend a weekly pub night with your sorority sisters anymore.) With fewer fish to choose from — and likely a busier schedule that keeps you from leisurely bumping into Mrs. Right — now is a good time to give online dating a shot. Say goodbye to the rules, the formulas and the ticking clocks.
And by pursuing a relationship more intentionally and with more maturity, your odds of finding lasting love are actually higher.
Besides, in your 30s you have more stories to tell. Just because you’ve survived heartache to get here doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t trust the next person to come around.
And once you know how it is inadvertently turning off the men who are looking for a positive, fun connection, it’s really not that difficult.
Here are the top five profile mistakes common to women over 40, along with specific tips to make your profile more appealing and reflective of the best you. Your profile is your calling card, not a wish list.